Sunday, 28 April 2013

How Aliens Reminded Me That Life Isn't That Bad After All


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Before you say anything, no I wasn't visited and probed by little green men over the weekend. I was in fact inspired the other night after watching a documentary on the possible existence of extraterrestrial life. This show gathered encounters, experiences, and stories from a range of credible intellectuals who all believe that there is life outside of our own planet. Laugh if you will, but I too am one of those believers. I remember watching a documentary in primary school as a little tyke, and as we were all engrossed in the images of stars and spaceships - our knees drawn up to our chests, eyes glued to the screen - I remember the narrator exclaiming that "there is something bigger out there" and that "we are not alone". What i found extremely interesting is that UFO's and ET's are not a recent thing manufactured by vivid and out-there imaginations or loony talk from rednecks in the deep south; the thought that there is life outside our own planet has been around since the 4th century where it was first recorded in Chinese texts that a "moon boat" hovered above the country every 12 years. Even the Ancient Egyptians recorded sightings of UFO's, validated by the etching of a little man in a round spaceship managing a joystick on the wall of a temple along with images of a fleet of flying saucers on an ancient papyrus. But never mind all that, I'm not writing today to talk about conspiracy theories. (no matter how interesting a write-up that would be I don't believe I have the brainpower to churn out something of that scale nor the emotional capability that comes with the onslaught of slack I'd receive in doing so) No, the reason I bring up aliens is because a, that documentary has turned me into a science nut and b, it reminded me that no matter what we are going through in life, there is always something bigger than what we are facing. Just think about it! Better yet, if you are currently seated near a window I want you to peer out for a minute and look up at the sky. How freakin' huge is that thing! and beyond those clouds is something even more expansive! Doesn't that make you feel so small, so insignificant in the wider world of things?? I remember as a child I'd go to bed often in a huff because I'd been dealt a bad hand that day; ie. I may have spilt chocolate milk over my new dress and got the third degree from mum, or the boy I had a crush on at school called me "giraffe" for being so tall. Anyways, my bed was next to a pretty decent sized window. And I'd always look out up into the night sky and watch the stars twinkle. Sometimes I'd be lucky enough to even see a shooting star or a satellite. And as I did this I immediately felt better. Those stars a million miles away always reminded me that things would get better and that no matter what I was dealing with, it will eventually come to pass as quickly as the night turned into day. For just a minute I'd forget about the little trivial things I was getting in a tangle over and realise that in comparison to the sky above me, I was insignificant. So it didn't matter if I stuttered my words during a public talk, or that I got knocked back from a job I really wanted. It may have seemed a big deal to me but in the bigger picture it wasn't that big a deal at all. Even - if you care to bare with me -take this example and imagine how we even came into being in the first place. How did we end up here, how did our planet form, how did the solar system that our planet resides in form, how did the universe form? the planets, the stars? Now that's a big deal! and yet, we seem to take it all for granted. Sure, we'll make a big deal over that so and so who cut us off at the lights this morning, or that person who 'did us wrong' how many years ago, but at the end of the day whats really important? What really matters? That we are alive - we are living - and not only that, but we are so very lucky to experience this world in all its infinite glory. Look up at the sky today Damsels, and thank your lucky stars for it.




Saturday, 27 April 2013

If You Don't Know Where You're Going, You'll Probably End Up Somewhere Better



Road Mapping is an essential component in any journey. In order to get from A to B you need a decent plan highlighting the best routes to take, rest stops or fuel stations along the way, and any places of interest which could be of value to you. I was rummaging around my family garage the other day when I found a crate of books. Amongst them, one cover caught my eye; it was David Campbell's 'If You Don't Know Where You're Going, You'll Probably End Up Somewhere Else'. It is a little primer of a book outlining the importance that goal-planning has in the building of a happy and successful life. Its message is clear and simple; If you haven't got a plan - or a map - of where you are going, then chances are, you won't end up where you want to be. I am a firm believer in goal-setting and planning. I am an OCD planner, I own a journal - no, two journals - and every morning before I begin my day I write a plan on what i want to achieve; Be that writing an article before 7pm, going to the gym, or picking up dog food from the local pet store. Then, I go through each task, meticulously ticking each one off as I complete them. It sounds OTT but it helps me to arrange my thoughts and to make the most of each day, because before you know it, today turns into tomorrow - and tomorrow turns into "Ohh I can just put that off until Friday.." and so on and so on. I was at my dear friend Laura's house the other day, and we were sitting at her kitchen table talking about our lives and stressing about where we'll end up. "I don't know who I am, where I'm going, or what I want to be anymore." said Laura, helplessly tapping away at her laptop attempting to submit an assignment by the deadline of 5 o'clock. It was 4:35. "I don't even know why I chose this degree, I don't even like it!" Laura is a prime example of a last-minute planner. Give her a map and she'd eye it with half-interest and then push it aside saying "I hate maps. They're SO boring". The thing is with maps though is that without them, we'd be lost. It was quite the coincidence then when I picked up an O! Magazine sitting in a haphazard pile of paper atop one of the kitchen seats. One of the feature articles touched on the subject of mapping your life journey. More specifically, what happens when you've mapped your journey and finally venture out only to end up hitting a road bump or accidentally taking a wrong turn or - as this article stated - hit a rumble strip. There are many of time where I have set out on a road trip and been blindsided by a crossroad. i.e., a road would be closed and I'd have to make alternate arrangements, or the fuel stations only petrol pump was out of order, or my tire got a puncture etc. And even though I planned every little detail of my road map before leaving, something can - and usually does - pop up and forces me have to draw up a whole new map. But, the funny thing is in most cases the moments that didn’t work out - where I've incidentally hit a 'rumble strip' - served the most important part of the trip. See, rumble strips serve a purpose; they warn you to slow down, take caution, and get back on track. We can use this analogy of the rumble strip in real life, too. When Laura brought up how, when she first applied for university, she thought her specific course would be enjoyable only to find out now that she actually despises it. This is a form of rumble strip, and its serving her a purpose even if she can't see it through the pile of homework in front of her. It's telling her 'Hey, this isn't the best option for you. But that's ok! Let’s look at your other options!' Same thing applies to every area of your life, be it personal, professional or otherwise. If your current road map has led you to dead-end town then it’s time to stop, put your car in reverse, and try a different road.







Pump the brakes. If you're overcome with feelings of dissatisfaction in your current journey then there’s no point wasting precious fuel by continuing on in the bumper to bumper of a busy congested highway you always seem to take day-in and day-out. Martha Beck in her article 'Off The Beating Path' in the February 2013 issue of O! Magazine suggests that in any circumstance or part of a rumble strip you've found yourself upon, the first thing to do is to stop. Drop all your fears, worries, should-of's, could-of's etc. and focus on the now. Stop, and surrender. This is your first step in remapping your journey.









Do a U-Turn. At first realization that you've reached a point of destination where you otherwise don't want to be, then reverse out of that dead-end street, off the rumble strip, and backtrack. Martha says that in order to do this, we must take note of all the problems we're encountering and list them in order of which one is causing us the most pain or dissatisfaction. In Laura's case, it was her degree. Laura threw her mind in reverse by making an inventory of all the reasons why she didn't like what she was studying and all the reasons why - in her mind - she should keep at it. After analyzing her list we found that the root cause of the problem was not the degree itself, but Laura's inability to manage her time. Aha! Try putting your mind in reverse and list every resistance to whatever you’re facing on one page, and on the opposite page write a list of every feasible way you can overcome this or correct each problem.







Take the next exit. As soon as you have assessed your current life situation and have found that you were on the wrong route, it's time to head in a new direction. Laura saw that her inability to manage her time efficiently was making her dislike what she was studying, and so she forced herself to correct this situation. First, by listing all the possible ways she can better compartmentalize her life. I gave her one of my journals (I always carry a spare in my bag!) and helped her manage her life into bite-sized pieces. After this, Laura was able to see that by stopping and switching paths or perspectives, she was able to move forward on a smooth and even track. Let me give you a personal example; when my relationship with Nutjob broke down, instead of self-sabotaging myself with "why me, what is wrong with me, what did I do" I forced myself to sit down and take note of all the positives of the situation. It was hard at first, I think my first dot-point was tear-stained, however eventually I had FIVE pages worth of all the positives I gained from the situation. By making yourself alter your beliefs and change your negative thoughts into positive ones, you are on the first track towards a different - and more enjoyable - road. You are training your mind into thinking of adversities as possibilities. You are en route to a much happier - and better - destination.


Bon Voyage!





















Thursday, 18 April 2013

Weekly Wrap-Up




It's time for your Weekly Wrap-Up! I hope you too are finding these articles as interesting as I do. There's nothing I love to do more than to sit at my computer with a warm cup of coffee and read wacky, whimsical, and wisdom-filled stories from the World Wide Web! Here are just some of the cool reads I came across this past week along with other fabulous things I've done!


- 'Mr. Hangout' made a reappearance on my phone the other day. He said he wouldn't mind 'hanging out' again, albeit he never set a date for this 'hang out' and never contacted me since. I told him - in my head of course - to hang out somewhere far away from me.

-I've hit the gym every day this week! And I'm not one for gloating, but I am SO proud of my efforts. Nothing better than feeling trim, taut, and terrific!

-Watching the Premiere of Mrs. Brown's Boys on prime time TV this week. That show is "fecking" hilarious! And she's coming to Oz March 2014! "That's nice!"

-Grande cappucinno's and warm cinnamon swirl scrolls from Starbucks on a chilly Autumn day.

-My brother got me onto a brilliant App called 'Zedge', where you can download ringtones for free. My ringtone is from the old-school 'Yoshi' gameboy game!

-Ever wonder why guys seem to pull the 'disappearing act' after the first date? Me too. I found this article helpful. http://girlsguideto.com/articles/how-to-handle-the-disappearing-act I love how she says that most times we feel a right to get some kind of closure, to know why they pulled such a heinous act on us, but then again “Sometimes your closure is just realizing that this guy is scum.”  - Kudos!

-My next girls weekend is definately gonna be at one of these craazy hotels! http://thewondrous.com/worlds-20-craziest-hotels/


-Running away to join the circus has never been easier - or more tempting! Get started here! http://www.bigtopcircusschool.ca/

-I don't know about you, but I am super crazy about the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show. This page is dedicated to all things VS, including videos of every fashion show to date. http://www.vsholic.com

-Ever wanted to make your own jeans?! http://www.makeyourownjeans.com/ 

-This story of a husband telling his wife that he doesn't love her anymore is a must-read. http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/02/fashion/02love.html?_r=2&em=&adxnnl=1&pagewanted=all&adxnnlx=1321322333-yGmTjoWY3aX/c5ZJoNfv7w&

-I love love love this blog http://therulesofladies.tumblr.com/ A beautiful, inspiring quote for each day of the week.

-Who are you meant to be? Oprah helps you with this here http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Who-Are-You-Meant-to-Be-Self-Assessment-Quiz

-In my current hunt for a job I've been subjected to many of these questions http://www.gowrikumar.com/interview/index.html Am I the only one who thinks the question 'Tell me about yourself" is the hardest one to answer?!

-Maybe being a strong, and independant woman is actually scaring potential suitors off? http://www.bitterlawyer.com/do-guys-actually-reject-girls-because-theyre-intimidated-by-them/

-This site is awesome. If you love journal writing but prefer to keep your entries strictly private then sign up for Penzu! https://penzu.com/

-Porn Stars stripped bare! Makeup artist to the stars of Adult film Melissa Murphy reveals before & after photos of the top American porn actresses! http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/features/4837604/porn-stars-show-their-faces-without-make-up.html I love makeup transformations, and this one is mind-blowing. (no pun intended!)



 
I am sure by now you have seen the "ain't nobody got time for that!" interview with Sweet Brown. It's even better in song-form. Bless her!



We were all blown away by 'Gangnam Style', now Psy has released a new single 'Gentleman ' which is just as catchy! What do you think?!





And, a quote;



"Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there."
—Will Rogers